Life can be both wonderful and perplexing.
A few years ago I realized that I wanted more control over my reaction to things that happened in my life. How could I live a rich and fulfilled life while experiencing it from an underlying sense of peace that reassures me that no matter what comes my way everything is going to be okay? No tall order! I look around me and I see people struggling, sometimes for years, unable to move from where they are. I think it is such a terrible waste and I would really like to help people become all they want to be.
Studying spiritual topics has been helpful as has the study of Solution Focused Brief Therapy and Palliative Care. I’ve discovered and created some wonderful ‘tools’ which others may find useful for managing the difficulties in their lives and moving to their preferred way of living. This is what I want to share with you through Serenity Advocacy.
From the time I was a teenager, I have been drawn to older people, wanting their lives to be rich and supported. As a student, I worked in retirement homes and researched home support services in the community. During this time, I received a Hons Bachelor of Social Science and studied Counselling the Dying and Bereaved at Ottawa University in Canada. But life often doesn’t go the way you anticipate, and rather than working in this field, I ended up in New Zealand and started a family and a Landscape Gardening business.
A few years ago, I realized that it was time to re-engage with my earlier interests and I completed a two-year Post-graduate Diploma in Health Sciences at Canterbury University, Christchurch, New Zealand. During the first year studying Palliative Care, I developed a keen interest in the psychological and spiritual aspects of life and death, and learned a process called Companioning which supports people by ‘walking alongside them’ without judgement. In the second year Counselling programme, I discovered Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) which made me feel as if I had ‘come home’. It has become the mainstay of my interaction with people in my life and the focus of my Advocacy and Companioning Service.
I currently belong to a training and professional development organization called the SFU led by the world-renowned trainer and therapist, Elliott Connie, with members throughout the world. We study SFBT themes and meet regularly via video conferencing, to practice, share experiences and gain wisdom and support from each other.
I have completed NZ Hospice’s, Fundamentals of Palliative Care. I believe in the important role of nature and gardens in people’s mental and spiritual health. I continue to study metaphysical topics, and meditation has become a mainstay of my own wellbeing.